4 Ways to be a BAD Wingman
September 18, 2009 by Tobias S.
Filed under Better Dating, Featured
Being a good wingman is one of the best things you can do for your single male friends. It’s the real-life version of being the Robin to your buddy’s Batman; the modern version of being a squire to their knight; the social version of…well, of being an actual wingman!
Greater love hath no man than this, that he is ready to don a loud shirt, go out on the town with his friend, and help him get a little action with the ladies.
Course they don’t teach you how to do this stuff in grade school (hmmm…maybe they should…), so maybe you don’t exactly know what to do, or what NOT to do. In that case, you’ve come to the right article! So read on for how NOT to do it.
#1: Don’t push your buddy to get out of the house
The first rule of ‘wingmanship’ really starts before you even get out to a bar or club, and it’s this: don’t let your single friend let himself go.
If you have a friend who’s been single for a while, it could be that he has begun to slip into a state of dating apathy. You know the signs: he doesn’t go to the gym anymore; he’s started getting $5 haircuts, and he’d rather stay home on a Friday night with a 6-pack of beer and a DVD than take a shower and hit the bars. Don’t let him! You need to motivate your buddy to get back out there. This also applies to friends of yours who might be newly single. It’s up to you to do whatever it takes to raise them out of their torpor and get them out of the house.
#2: Don’t have a good time with your buddy
If you and your buddy are together in a bar or a club and you’re clearly having a great time together, everyone in the bar will want to know you. The image you want to throw off is two fun guys having a good time in each other’s company. If you can project that it’ll be the two of you who attract the ladies, even if there are better-looking guys around.
If, on the other hand, the two of you are sipping your beers and nervously scanning the room while not speaking to each other…expect to go home alone.
#3: Fail to engage the friend You know where ‘wingman’ comes from, right? Well, failing to engage the enemy is as big a sin in the dating world as it is in the world of military aviation! And the friend of the girl your friend likes is your enemy, if that makes sense. When women are out on the town together, they can be overly protective of each other, and you need to disarm that. Also, while your buddy is talking to his girl her friends might get bored and try to pull her away. Any way you slice it, you need to talk to the friend (or friends) of the girl your buddy is talking to, so that he has the best possible shot. Taking a hit for the team is what being a good wing is all about. #4: Make fun of your buddy When you’re winging someone, the idea is to act as their ’social proof’ as much as possible. In other words, your job is to tell everyone how great your buddy is, what a good friend, how much fun he is to hang out with, etc. Funnily enough people will believe you, even though you’re clearly biased. This is why you should never, ever poke fun at your buddy in front of the ladies, even if a bit of banter is normally part of your relationship. Check out these links for more good info on being a wingman:
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