Solving Relationship Issues One Debate at a Time
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DEBATE: Go to a Fantasy Football Draft or to a Friends Wedding?
September 26th, 2009 at 9:36 amI can understand both points of view, because both of you are making the same under-lying argument: give up something important to you to show your significant other that you care about them.
I do think JustStoppingBy makes a good point that fantasy football happens every year and a wedding is a once in a lifetime event (although unfortunately, I think the average is probably higher than one marriage). There are a lot of weddings that seem to come up though, so
I think it really depends on how important the draft is to the guy versus the wedding to the lady. As Steven Covey would say “where are you?” (you then rate how important the issue is to you on a scale from 1 to 10 and then decide if it is necessary to debate)
Little Known Reasons Why He Won't Marry You
September 17th, 2009 at 5:08 pmToo funny!
If You Don't Stop Telling Your Girlfriend These 5 Things, You'll Hate Yourself Later
August 7th, 2009 at 2:14 pmRachel, I find it interesting that you have decided to write about lying once again. Makes me wonder about you a bit.
While I defended your position on your last post, I have to say I disagree with you for the most part on this one.
I think some of your guidelines have good intentions, but I disagree that a guy should lie, especially when asked about such situations directly. I do agree that guys shouldn’t go out of their way to bring up ex-girlfriends, lesbian dwarf strippers, and kissing dudes, but you also shouldn’t lie if your girl inquires. It is important to be honest at an appropriate time in your relationship (not too early, not too late) about past criminal behavior. And if you think her friends are idiots, that probably says something about your lady well. You should probably consider re-evaluating the relationship altogether at that point…but don’t bring it up after the first time you meet them.
Why It's Ok to Lie to the Person You're Dating
August 3rd, 2009 at 2:34 pmI can see both sides of the argument here, but claiming to be 100% honest, 100% of the time is dishonest in itself. I agree that there is a fine line that can be crossed in what constitutes as a white lie, and what type of lie should be taken more seriously. I also agree that compliment fishing is generally poor taste, but there are many other examples where a white lie can go along way in keeping the peace (i.e. saying you like a gift from your in-laws, when you have no idea why they think you would ever wear a sweater like THAT). Point being, a white lie from time to time will help keep the peace and avoid confrontation. As long as you and your significant other are on the same page where that fine line is, it shouldn’t be something to make a fuss about.
DEBATE: Should You Dump Who You're Dating If Your Friends Don't Like Him/Her?
July 12th, 2009 at 10:23 pmI think there are two good arguements here, but you shouldn’t dump a significant other for the sole reason that your friends don’t like her/him. Chances are there will be other problems with your new love if none of your friends care for him/her though. What’s the worse thing that can happen by staying with this new person? Maybe, you spend a couple of extra months with them before you figure it out yourself. But maybe your new love becomes more comfortable and grows on your friends over time. The bottom line is, if you’re a grown person you should make the decision for yourself.