Happy Couple = boring to talk about

After a fun evening at Wine Steals with several friends that are in seemingly happy relationships, one of life greatest truths has become even more evident:  When you are in a good relationship that’s been going on for a while, no one wants to hear about it.

Seriously – when was the last time you REALLY wanted to hear about a friend of yours awesome relationship?  Guys – do you really want your boy to go on and on about how great Becky is, the girl he’s been dating for two years?  Ladies – are you really that interested in hearing the details of how happy your girlfriend is with fiance Dante?  NO!  No one wants to hear about that!  Its sad but true.

I can’t speak for the ladies out there, but here is how the conversation between a couple of  guys happens when things are going well between a buddy and his somewhat long-term  (longer than 6 months) girlfriend/fiance/wife:

Guy 1: “So how are things with you and Arlene?”

Guy 2: “Things are good man.  We’re really getting along well”

Guy 1: “Cool.”

And that’s it.  Next subject.

You might think we would explore the depths of this topic:

• Why are things so good with Arlene?
• What is about her that makes you happy?
• How often are you guys doing it these days?
• In what positions?

After all, since we’re buddies, you would think we would want to know why our friend is so happy!  Yet for some reason, when it comes to relationships, we don’t get into the details once we know things are good.

Contrast this with how we discuss sports, our jobs, or our house.

If we are making some updates on our house and we’re asked about how things are going with it, we’ll happily share with you all the changes we’re making, the contractors we hired, how long it will take them to finish up, etc.  We’re downright eager to talk about how well things are going in an impressive level of detail.  Same for our sports team:  Ask a soccer fan “How is the U.S. Soccer National team doing?” and they’ll be quite excited to go on about latest matches, injured players, chances in upcoming World Cup etc.

The key thing here is that guys are happy to go on about something EVEN IF THEY KNOW THE PERSON THEY’RE TALKING TO IS NOT REALLY INTERESTED (note: this seems to especially be the case with older males… go ahead… ask your Dad about how his favorite sports team is doing… $10 says he will not care if you fall asleep while he’s talking, he WILL share with you how the Aztecs are an athletic but undersized team…)

So we’re more than happy to go on and on about a subject even when we know our friends are not interested.  Yet for some reason when it comes to our relationships, we get as tight lipped as a captured terrorist.  Why is that?  Allow me to share some insights:

1. A guy doesn’t want to seem like a wuss

Guys – back me up on this one:  Those moment you’re with your lady… all happy and baby talking and stuff… not at your most manliest, am I right?

So when someone asks how things are going and things are kick-ass it makes us think about those times when we’re cuddling and giddy and not at all very manly.  As a result, we don’t want to talk about it.  Yea, it’s nice, it’s cool…. And that’s about all the insight you’re going to get because the reality is that we don’t want our friends to know that we’re super into a girl (even if we placed a rock on her finger).  Its just not masculine.

2. You don’t want to rub it in the face of others

When you’re in a happy relationship, the last thing you want to do is go into detail about it in front of others that may not be that happy.  It’s just rude.  It’s like eating a Big Mac in front of a bum.

They (your friends) want what you got (at an abstract level of course ) so there’s no need to rub it in their face how happy you are.  A simple “things are good” is explanation enough.  If they want more details they’ll ask.  And even then, as the happy guy in the relationship, you have gauge whether or not they REALLY want to know or are just being polite.  I’ll cover that in another posting.

3. It’s just not all that interesting

Ever wonder why on the Real World/Jersey Shore (they’re the same show right?  Just one has more Italians?) the group is never really happy?  That’s because… here’s the revelation… wait foooor it….

Happy isn’t interesting.

Drama is interesting.  Tears, bruises, vomit, arrests… interesting!

Baby talk, happiness, contentment…

yawn…

A good buddy of mine (let’s call him Maxwell – bonus points if you recognize him from the podcasts) made the analogy to news:  No one watches good news.  The more horrific, awful, depressing, disturbing the news is, the more likely we are to tune in.

Same for a relationship.

If you’re really happy in relationship, its just not that interesting to talk about.  If she cheated on you with a player on the Lakers?  Well shiiiiiiit, we could talk all night about that!  But, do you really want to hear about how we painted our bedroom last weekend and it was awesome?  No!  You would have started looking around for other people to talk to once I mentioned “Home Depot”.  The stuff that happy couples do just isn’t that entertaining to share.

So what’s the takeaway… the moral of the story?  Don’t be offended/surprised/disappointed once you get into a happy relationship and no one wants to hear about it.  It comes with the territory.  Don’t get mad at your friends because they don’t want to hear about how great things are.  Accept it as a (minor) side effect that comes along with dating someone awesome.

The one thing I am curious about though… do these same rules apply to the ladies?  I could see 2 & 3 applying equally across genders, but #1 it would seem you don’t have to worry about.

Is it easier to talk about happy relationships amongst your friends as a woman?  Share your thoughts.

Fact or Myth: Married couples have 25% to 300% MORE sex than their single counterparts depending on age.

Believe it or not – that’s a fact! Contrary to popular belief, married couples actually have quite a bit of sex! So why are all the married couples trying to improve their sex lives? That’s because it’s about quality, not quantity. Married couples often have less satisfying sex than their single counterparts because things simply get boring. Here’s how to make all that married sex count!

• Make Time For Great Sex. Sure, you’ve heard it before. You might be thinking, “Not bloody likely!” But with the every day demands that we face, such as work and children, sex with our spouses often gets put on the back burner. Well, you’re going to have to make time for sex if you want a better, more satisfying sex life. And not a quickie – chances are, that’s what you’re already doing. Make time for good sex.





• Resolve Your Conflicts. Every married couple has conflicts. But when you and your spouse argue outside the bedroom, those feelings of anger, hurt and frustration often get carried into the bedroom. These feelings can affect your sex life in numerous significant ways. Spouses who have regular conflicts with each other don’t feel as emotionally close to their partners, making it difficult to totally open yourself to great sex. Resolving your conflicts with each other before getting busy can help you to feel emotionally and physically open to your partner, often resulting in mind blowing sex!





• Exercise Together. Exercise is a great boost for the libido, and exercising together? Even better. Not only do you get to spend time with your spouse that you ordinarly may not have been able to do, you also get to see them all hot and sweaty…well, you get the picture. In addition to the sexy, sweaty fun, exercising regularly (and eating a healthy, nutritious diet) will help keep you fit and attractive to your spouse.





• Flirt With Each Other. Remember when you and your spouse first started dating? There was lots of flirting going on, and neither you nor your partner were sure what was going to happen next. That fun, exciting feeling of having no idea of their next move often gets lost when you get married, mainly because you know exactly what is going to happen next. You can improve your sex life by bringing that flirty, fun feeling back into your relationship. Go to a bar with your spouse and exchange some witty banter and see where it heads.





• Be Completely Spontaneous. For the same reason flirting can often revv up the quality of sex in a marriage, so can a healthy level of spontaneity. Instead of going home for the night, just keep driving and see where it leads you. Surprise your spouse with a hot hotel room for the weekend, or wear a new, sexy pair of undies. If you usually wear boxers or panties, try wearing a string bikini or a thong. It doesn’t matter what you do, just be creative and break out of the norm. Surprise your partner with something totally unexpected, even if it’s something small.

According to Reuters:

“IllicitEncounters.com said it has seen a huge increase in the number of financial workers signing up to have affairs after the collapse of the markets in October last year, and that “finance” continued to be one of the most represented professional areas on the site.”

Does Money Make You More Vulnerable?

The website set out to determine why this was so. They interviewed 380,000 members, 20,000 of them work in financial services and found that among some of the reasons for infidelity were public revulsion for bankers, along with lack of affection in private. Additionally, members were interested in engaging in risky behavior to escape boredom, and feeding the ego by landing a trophy mistress. Long hours, negative public sentiment, stress and separation from their partners makes those that work in finance (and any high-stress job for that matter) more prone to turn to an affair; especially now when there is more than enough stress to go around!

If we look around, we see a higher rate of affairs in other professions that are very demanding, like politicians. I’ve talked about this before and explained my theory. The bio-chemical craving for connection, as discussed in the book Financial Infidelity, stems from stress, separation and/or loss. These are probable elements for finance workers now. The stress goes without saying, and the separation aspect was even mentioned in the study, as bankers work longer and longer hours, lending fewer opportunities to connect with a spouse or partner. Thus, it’s not a stretch to think that those in this field are facing large financial losses themselves, or dealing with clients who have suffered losses.

A common reply in the study from male respondents had to do with boosting egos and giving in to the peer pressure of having a mistress for the sake of status. A stressed out banker distancing himself from family creates fertile ground for indiscretions.

Relieve Stress Without An Affair

All this explains why infidelity happens, but certainly doesn’t excuse it. Although certain people, professions and/or websites make it seem otherwise, an affair is not something to be coveted. Adultery usually leads to a further rift in a relationship, and all too often is the precursor for divorce. Contrary to social and popular belief among some, infidelity is not a status symbol. Rather, it is a symptom of a life that is terribly out of balance.

Instead of choosing infidelity as a solution for relieving stress, communicate with your partner. If you’re not at a good point in your relationship, talk to SOMEONE you trust, with the goal of developing emotional intimacy with your partner. Affairs create more lies, more stress and more separation, and you’ll be worse off than when you started.

One the great Female Mysteries is why we make you wait for sex.  Here’s a list of the possible reasons:

1.         We’re not sure you’re worth it yet.

You’re iffy.  We’re honestly not sure if we want to keep you around and we know that as soon as you tap it, you’ll want to keep us.  The last thing we need is an abandoned puppy begging for sex.

2.         We’re at a vital number in our sexual career.

When I first became sexually active, I set a limit for myself.  I was going to find my husband by the time I got to sex partner #5.  I was really picky when it came to deciding who would be #5.  Then he turned out to be a total ass and dumped me for a floozy at his work.  So I said, “Well, ten is a nice number.”  I picked much better for #10, but ended up dumping him after a year.  Now, well, here’s hoping I find the one by 15.

3.         We’re currently being visited by Aunt Flo.

Also known as the monthly visitor, Aunt Flo makes us feel bloated, dirty (in a bad way), and just plain unsexy.  I like to refer to that time of the month as The Communist Invasion.  (There’s a Red Party in my pants.  Get it?)  Anyway, we may be pushing you away because we’d rather not paint the town red on our first romp.

4.         We have another iron in the fire.

Did you think we were just dating you?  Oh, sorry.  We didn’t have the exclusivity talk yet, so we assumed the game was still on.  We like you enough to keep dating you, but honestly, we’re not sure if we want to bonk you or that other guy.  It’s your brother?  Wow, we knew you looked alike…

5.         We’re not actually dating.

Are you sure we’re dating and not just cuddle buddies?  Be sure you’re on the right ladder before you assume that we’re going to bump uglies ever.  We really thought you knew that we were just friends!  Friends that spend lots of time together… oh, and that occasionally buy dinner for each other.  (Okay, you always pay.)  The snuggling?  We do that with all our friends.

6.         We’re going to dump you.

Sorry, but we’ve pretty much decided that you aren’t worth our time anymore.  There just hasn’t been a good time to tell you yet.  Yep, we’re totally aware that we’ve seen each other nearly every day for the past few weeks.  Yep, totally aware that you’ve probably dropped a few hundred dollars on food and activities.  Yep, totally aware that you’re falling harder for us every time we meet.  But we had to fully test drive you as a boyfriend before deciding if we wanted to commit for the long haul, and you just aren’t working out.  We’ll tell you – eventually.

…of course, there are tons of other reasons why your girl of choice is making you wait for sex.  But instead of asking us, why don’t you ask her?

Luckily for you, this article has your back on some of the essentials that you’re going to need. First of all, you’re going to need a break up excuse. And before you say anything, you DO need a break up excuse! In case you had some charmingly quaint notion about telling the truth – don’t. Just don’t. There is a time for honesty, and a time for lies, and this is definitely the latter of the two.

The best break up excuses are those that: a) don’t cause the other person any pain, and b) don’t keep any kind of door open that could give the other person hope that you might get back together. The ‘b)’ thing is important, because some girls just don’t take no for an answer, particularly those with low self-esteem. For this reason you need to make yourself clear – when it’s over, it’s o-v-e-r!

Let’s take a look at some break up excuses that fit the bill:

Three classics

If you’re pretty sure you’re never going to see the person again, it’s hard to beat “I think maybe I’m gay” (or if you’re gay, the somewhat less plausible “I think maybe I’m straight”).

After all, no one is to blame for it, and it also shuts the door pretty hard on a possible reconciliation. If you think you’re going to need to plant some physical evidence first to make this convincing, a prominent internet browser history involving nude men should do nicely.

“I’m moving to Kansas” is a tried and tested classic.

Of course you’ll need to modify this in certain circumstances. Like for example, if you already live in Kansas (in which case…sorry, just – sorry). If you really want to go all-out, you could punch this up a notch and pick another country rather than merely another state, but the danger here is that it might sound exotic, exciting and sexy instead of, well, like a life sentence. Then you run the risk of getting the response “I’ll come with you!”

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Greater love hath no man than this, that he is ready to don a loud shirt, go out on the town with his friend, and help him get a little action with the ladies.

Course they don’t teach you how to do this stuff in grade school (hmmm…maybe they should…), so maybe you don’t exactly know what to do, or what NOT to do. In that case, you’ve come to the right article! So read on for how NOT to do it.

#1: Don’t push your buddy to get out of the house

The first rule of ‘wingmanship’ really starts before you even get out to a bar or club, and it’s this: don’t let your single friend let himself go.

If you have a friend who’s been single for a while, it could be that he has begun to slip into a state of dating apathy. You know the signs: he doesn’t go to the gym anymore; he’s started getting $5 haircuts, and he’d rather stay home on a Friday night with a 6-pack of beer and a DVD than take a shower and hit the bars. Don’t let him! You need to motivate your buddy to get back out there. This also applies to friends of yours who might be newly single. It’s up to you to do whatever it takes to raise them out of their torpor and get them out of the house.

#2: Don’t have a good time with your buddy

If you and your buddy are together in a bar or a club and you’re clearly having a great time together, everyone in the bar will want to know you. The image you want to throw off is two fun guys having a good time in each other’s company. If you can project that it’ll be the two of you who attract the ladies, even if there are better-looking guys around.

If, on the other hand, the two of you are sipping your beers and nervously scanning the room while not speaking to each other…expect to go home alone.

• Wikipedia: Wingman
• The wingman is arguably the noblest creature to ever step into a barroom

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Unfortunately, if it’s also a new activity for you and your lady friend, it’s entirely possible that there might be some awkwardness involved. Not on your part, of course -you’re a demon in the sack, natch – but on hers. Obviously this is not a good thing.

So what causes this and what can you do about it? Let’s take a look in a little more detail:

The cause

What’s the cause of awkwardness in the sack? Gee, I don’t know, could it be the nudity? Yes! The most likely cause of in-bed anxiety is that your girl is self-conscious about some part of her anatomy…or all of it. Fair enough, after all, not everyone’s a perfect physical specimen like you! Getting nude in front of a stranger is not something that many of us do often, so except for the exhibitionists amongst us, a little timidity the first few times is only to be expected.

The other possible cause of awkwardness in the sack is inexperience. ‘Nuff said, it’s only natural to feel a little awkward whenever you attempt a new physical activity, whether it’s ballroom dancing, golf, or doing the ‘mattress mambo’.

Don’t forget that the thing with awkwardness is that once it exists, it feeds off awkwardness in other people, actual or perceived. So if your girl is awkward and that makes YOU feel awkward, then the two of you can get caught in an awkwardness feedback loop…and no one wants that. So think about the vibe you’re giving off too.

Luckily, awkwardness in the bedroom is totally fixable (awkwardness in the backseat or on your desk at work on the other hand, is probably always going to carry a degree of awkwardness).

Here’s one strategy that might work: alcohol.

Yes, alcohol! Don’t dismiss alcohol. It’s been heavily involved in the early phases of many a great relationship, not to mention many a *ahem* not entirely planned pregnancy. And why? Well, if you didn’t know, a little alcohol helps people to loosen up and lose their inhibitions.

It also helps to get rid of the self-consciousness that most people get when they get nude. You might find a little tipple goes a long way and that after you’ve done without awkwardness once, the monkey is off your backs, and next time it’ll be natural without any substance abuse required!

The other ‘cure’ is time.

Yes, time! Usually this kind of awkwardness sorts itself out without you needing to do anything. In the meantime, the best strategy is to take the reins, and the initiative, in the bedroom. Take charge and pretend that there’s no awkwardness, and it shouldn’t be long before there isn’t any.

The final piece of advice is not to bring the issue of the awkwardness up with your girlfriend. If you bring it up in conversation, you run the risk of making her even more self-conscious, so it’s better to wait it out as above.

There’s one exception to this, and it’s when you’ve been doing ‘it’ for a while, with no appreciable reduction in the awkwardness stakes. In that case it’s possible that your girl has some serious body image or other issues, and you should not hesitate to dump her ass immediately.

Kidding! You should, of course, encourage her to seek appropriate counseling and remain by her side the whole time.

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Disclaimer: If you do something you know will piss off your partner, don’t write us hate mail. You’re the idiot that followed advice based on a random number generator.

Here we go…

1. Roleplay
Dress up like a bad cop or a sexy schoolgirl. (Bonus points if you’re a guy dressed like a sexy schoolgirl.)

2. Opposite Day
If you’re normally the dominant one in bed, be the one that gets tied up.

3. Go somewhere expensive
Splurge on a crazy fancy dinner where you can sip Perrier and feel like you’re awesome.

4. Go somewhere silly
Borrow a neighbor’s kid and go to Chuck E. Cheese, or go to the go-kart place and drive like maniacs.

5. Watch a really bad movie
Find the worst B movie you can find and force yourselves to watch it. Make commentary (a la Mystery Science Theater 3000).

6. Go down memory lane
Open up your old photo albums and laugh your ass off at your 80s self.

7. Visit a couple that hates each other
You’ll realize how good you really have it.

8. Challenge your partner to a Wii Bowling throwdown
Then massage each other’s sore arms afterwards.

9. Couple’s Massage
Nothing says relaxation and bonding like being naked together and rubbed down by a total stranger.

10. Go to the sex toy store
These places are full of hilarious and exciting things to see (and will give you ideas for things to do when you’re back home).

11. Visit a couple that’s all over each other
Oddly enough, you may find it sick and sappy while you’re there, but it’ll remind you how much you wanna jump your partner.

12. Have a threesome
Hey, I said there’s be some dangerous ones on the list. Why not conquer boredom with a new bed partner?

13. Make out upside down like Spider-Man
It’s every girl’s dream to be with a superhero.

14. Throw a porn party
You’ll get to see some things about your friends that you probably never wanted to know. (By the way, throw the DVD into reverse after the money shot. It’s hilarious.)

15. Dress each other up for a night out
You’ll get an idea of what your partner likes to see you wearing. Wear more of that and you’ll both be happier.

16. Make each other gift bags with dollar store gifts
You each get $10 to buy your partner things from the dollar store that remind you of them. Meet up later to discuss and crack up laughing.

17. Take a Class Together
Learning something with you’re girl gives you more to talk about than that bitch she hates at work.

18. Go on a vacation
Nothing helps you rediscover your partner like being far, far away from all the shit of your everyday lives.

19. Slave day
Be your partner’s slave for a day. Anything (within reason!) that they want, you must provide. Then trade off so they are your slave.

20. Go bar-hopping
If you’re married, take off your rings. Your goal is to see who can get the most amount of phone numbers by the end of the night.

Again, we’re not responsible if you’re an idiot. Bring back the spark into your relationship and most of all – have fun!

What do you and your significant other do to spice things up? What suggestions do you have for couples to keep from getting bored?

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Those of us that live in San Diego know there are a TON of great things to do. From the beach to the desert, from amusement parks to baseball games, there is something for everyone in “America’s Finest City”.

But how do you pick from all these activities to determine what would make for a great date?

Well friends, we here at U Say, I Say are here to help you out! Whether you’re dating someone new and looking to impress them, or you’ve been dating a while and looking for something new to do, we’ve compiled 10 unique and fun date ideas for you to try out (and you can take the credit for these – we don’t mind)

Below are the first 5, and to get the remaining 5 all you have to do is sign up for our pre-launch email list. Enjoy!

1. Behind the Scenes view of Sea World Rent a 2-person kayak at The Catamaran Resort on Mission Bay and paddle over to the water show at Sea World – you get a “behind the scenes” view and you see the show for free. Bring some home-made snacks to munch on (I’m a sucker for the old school PB&J) while you watch and you’ll really score some points. Link to the Map

2. Sunset in Ocean Beach OB is not typically know for its romance (unless hanging with dreadlocked hippies makes your heart go pitter-pat), but there are some nice cliffs that over the look the ocean that make for a great picnic site. Hit up Olive Tree Market to pick up some wine and some snacks from their wide selection of meats and cheeses. Add a blanket and a sunset and you have a great date. Link to the Map

3. Glow-ball golf night at Sail Ho There is some prep required for this date. It only happens a few times a month, so you have to sign up for their email newsletter to make sure you don’t miss the date. It’s far better than your average putt-putt/mini-golf. A short 9-hole course looks spectacular when the night is lit up by multi-colored, glow-in-the-dark golf balls whizzing past. End the evening with a glass of wine and some pizza at Wine Steals, conveniently located at the end of the 9th hole. Link to the Map

4. Take a cooking class at the Prado in Balboa Park These classes take place in a nice, intimate atmosphere where you watch a chef prepare a multi-course meal before your eyes. Afterwards, you are given taken home materials in case you really want to try cooking a dish for your sweetie that a professionally trained chef cooked for him/her (good luck with that one). Link to the Map

5. Gondola ride through Coronado Thought gondola rides were just for Venice? Think again friends. You can hire your very own Gondola right here in San Diego! At The Gondola Company in Coronado you can hire a Gondolier to paddle you around the waterfront, showing off some of San Diego’s most expensive homes. Bring some strawberries and champagne for the ride to score points. Score bonus points if while on the gondola ride you announce to your date you just closed escrow on one of the house you just passed. Link to the Map

6. South Bay Drive-In This is a gem that few people know about and perhaps THE best cheap date in San Diego. It’s a real drive-in theater! Coolers & lawn chairs are allowed. They don’t play cheeseball flicks, only the latest Hollywood blockbusters. Grab your SO and pack some bread, cheese, fruit in a cooler – a few pointers here just for the guys: – Pick some mild cheeses if you plan to kiss her at the end of the night (Manchego is always a winner, cheddar is well-known, Brie is fancy, Pecorina Romano has a nice salty taste). – Cut up your cheese into finger-food size pieces beforehand. – Same with the bread – slice it up before. Go with a crusty baguette for the nicest size slices. – Ditto on the fruit (Apples are simple, Strawberries are romantic and no cutting required, Mango says you have class, no Bananas – they turn brown, Pears are delicious, Oranges are too messy and Cherries can be the pits) Alcohol isn’t allowed, but some sparkling Izze soda can make it just as romantic.

7. Concert on the Sea Find yourself a friend with an inflatable boat & a little electric outboard motor (or take that kayak you rented in date #1). Park your car at Canon Street and take your choice of water-vehicles out to Humphreys for a Concert by the Bay. You’ll find yourself among an entire lot of “boat people,” having a great time and drinking. Don’t forget your own bottle of wine, a bottle opener (there’s nothing worse than having a great bottle of wine and no way to open it) and a couple of glasses. It’s a 4 hour tour without a bathroom, so make sure you give your date fair warning. Stop in the loo before setting sail for Humphreys. Link to the Map

8. Hot Air Balloon ride Nothing says “fun date” like doing something where you have the potential to die. Grab your sweetie and hop into a 10×10 basket attached to gigantic balloon, rented from Hot Air Flyer in Del Mar area. You’ll sail over Del Mar and Rancho Santa Fe fantasizing about owning one of the expansive estates you see below. Link to the Map

10. Temecula Winery 3-Stop Tour Much love to Licia for this one! Everyone knows that Temecula is great for wine tasting, but with so many wineries, how do you know where to go? Here’s your 3-stop plan guaranteed to make a great date: First, stop at the Wilson Creek Winery. You may have heard about their Almond Champagne, but have you heard of their Decadencia Chocolate Port? Both are delicious and unique drinks. Mix them together for to create an Almond Joy – its amazing! Then move to Maurice Car’rie Winery for their baked garilc sourdough brie. They take a giant loaf of sourdough bread and stuff it with brie and garlic. It’s even more tasty than it sounds and you can’t beat it for $15. Finally, finish off the afternoon at Calloway. Calloway is know for their fine selection of wines and the relaxing atmosphere at the winery is the perfect way to wind down your afternoon. Best part about this path is that its easy to follow: Wilson Creek is at the end of the road that winds through the wineries and Calloway is at the beginning. Start at the back and move your way to the front. Link to the Map

11. BONUS – cheap date alert!!! Cinema Under the Stars. This is really one for the guys to score some points – pure romance. Remember those old black & white Audrey Hepburn movies? Bogie & Bacall anyone? It’s a little (and we mean little – only 30 seats) outdoor theater in Hillcrest that looks like someone’s backyard. Seats are $13.50, but if you reserve early (and it’s worth it if you do), you can snag one of their cozy 2-person cabanas. There are only 3, so plan ahead. It’s got a little loveseat where the two of you can snuggle up and enjoy an old romantic movie. If you miss out on the cabana, no worries, they have fully reclining lounge chairs AND they provide blankets too! We can’t say enough good things about it – love it!

So what do you guys think? Have any of you gone on these dates? Which ones would you like to tackle first? Share your experiences below.