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Comment on DEBATE: Should Taking Someone’s Last Name Be a Deal Breaker? by Adam R-Z

Adam R-Z — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 01:32:16 +0000

Hey Ben! Welcome to debate!

As you can probably guess Misty, I agree with Ben. I totally support a woman’s ability to be equal from a career, rights, and other basic standpoints.

But that does not mean that there shouldn’t be gender roles in a male/female relationship. Whats surprising is that I think most women would agree with us as well – women want men to be MEN. They want us to be strong & confident. That’s what they find attractive.

So if we:
1. Agree on that there needs to be a shared last name for family reasons, and
2. Women want confident strong men – like those that are strong members of a family,

then it needs to be the mans last name because that is what in reality what most woman would find attractive and fulfilling.

Comment on DEBATE: Should Taking Someone’s Last Name Be a Deal Breaker? by Ben

Ben — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 00:53:27 +0000

Well, I’d like to ask you why would the guy take on the girl’s last name? My personal view is that a woman should take on a man’s last name. My main reason: tradition and beliefs. It is a tradition practiced around the world. Currently, only 7 US states allow men to change their last name without going through the entire legal name change process. It wasn’t until the 1970’s that feminist groups began questioning the practice of a woman taking on a man’s name.

This question also stems to gender roles and beliefs on family. My belief is that gender is an essential characteristic of individuals identity and purpose. It is my belief that fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners.

While both are equal partners, both have responsibilities and roles within the family unit that support and create an environment for the raising of posterity.

With this being said, I fully support a woman’s choice to pursue a career, but do not see it as a requirement. I hope that when I get married, my wife will have the option to stay home and raise children if she so chooses.

Some argue in the case of women changing their last name is a brand identity associated with the last name of authors, actresses, and otherwise. In this case, I think legally the woman should still change her name without hyphenation. However, to preserve brand identity, a hyphenation can be used.

Comment on DEBATE: Should Taking Someone’s Last Name Be a Deal Breaker? by Misty

Misty — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:55:54 +0000

I’ll pose the same question posed to Adam….if the argument is just that the family unit should have the same last name, why can’t the guy take the girl’s last name?

Comment on DEBATE: Should Taking Someone’s Last Name Be a Deal Breaker? by Ben

Ben — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 12:15:02 +0000

This woman should absolutely take on the man’s last name. Not only will it be confusing to people why she is married but her “husband” has a different last name, what are their future children to think? And what last name will children take with them?

It has nothing to do with “owning” another, or enslaving them. Any attempt to claim this is absolute sexism.

A marriage is a union of 2 lives into a family. Both parties should absolutely carry the same last name. It shows unison and identifies a family.

This is an absolute deal breaker for me. If the woman I marry is not willing to take my last name as her own, there will be no wedding.

Comment on Surprise! No one wants to hear about your good relationship by Misty

Misty — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 21:25:36 +0000

#1 – Does not apply to ladies. C’mon, all you modern men out there, embrace your mushiness! Ok, start by telling women about it, maybe your boys aren’t as advanced as you and aren’t ready for it But we’ll eat it up. #2 – Unless my current boyfriend is being a huge d*ck, or I just got dumped, I am more than happy to listen to other people talk about their happy relationships! Even if one of those two situations does apply, I may not be as happy to hear about it, but I’ll certainly listen, and I can appreciate why you want to tell me about it. In this crazy world we live in, I think its awesome that two people can make each other so happy. #3 – Hmmm…..well, lets put it this way. If you are my friend, that means that I like you and your personality, so I’m probably gonna be cool to listening to you talk about you & your sig. other, because you know better than to talk about weird boring crap. I’m happy to hear about the sweet stuff, bc I know its important to you. On the other hand, I have some acquaintances that I would like to put duct tape over their mouths, and thats why they are acquaintances. I (a) don’t really care that much, and (b) they have sub-par story telling abilities.

And, yes, you are right, guys will go on about some random subject forever even if you don’t care

Comment on Why it’s Impossible to Escape the “Friend Zone” by Jomash

Jomash — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 02:54:46 +0000

That’s fucked man, girls are heartless. Now I spell girl with a B.

Comment on DEBATE: Will Elin Nordegren Divorce Tiger Woods Because of His Cheating? by karma

karma — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 17:16:14 +0000

If i was tiger woods i would save my marriage and go to counselling. Elin knows its good business to stick in the marriage. He got to be man enough to make it work or move forward. He will not quit golf.. This close on beating the golden bear and becoming elite golf. I don’t think so. He should have sticked with he and been a good man. He has two kids..

Comment on DEBATE: Will Elin Nordegren Divorce Tiger Woods Because of His Cheating? by Sital Amin

Sital Amin — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 00:44:35 +0000

That’s a good point – do you remove yourself from the temptation? He should, but he won’t. I don’t see him quitting golf – he’s got that elusive Jack Nicklaus 18 staring him in the face.

If it was a choice between winning 5 more majors (he has 14, 5 more and he would surpass Nicklaus) and his marriage to Elin, I think he’s gonna pick golf. Sad, but very true.

Comment on 6 Reasons Why Girls Make Guys Wait for Sex by Anna Jackson

Anna Jackson — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 04:38:41 +0000

The milk is sex. No one wants a cow (the relationship), because cows are way too much responsibility. But everyone wants milk! Milk is awesome. No one ever turns down milk.
This analogy assumes that men are the only ones who enjoy sex. It also has to do with running across too many jerks who lead women on, meaning, we ladies assume sex is a committal step in the relationship and sometimes men don’t see it that way.

There’s no set amount of time to wait…I think the timing is more related to what objectives both people have in the relationship, how willing they both are to take a risk, and how well they understand what’s going on in the other person’s mind, combined with their previous experiences (baggage!).

Riggs- this used to be Lorien and my fave Saturday afternoon movie. Of course, getting the milk for free in this case was about living together and not getting married. But it’s still pretty similar.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0218864/

Comment on DEBATE: Will Elin Nordegren Divorce Tiger Woods Because of His Cheating? by Adam R-Z

Adam R-Z — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 00:31:04 +0000

I think this is a really good idea. To abstract it out: If you are a man or woman and you are doing things that put your relationship in jeopardy taking a step back from those things for a period of time makes sense.

I’m not saying that playing golf makes Tiger sniff around (pun intended) but I would agree that not playing golf would force him to focus on other things, like his family life.

With that said, can you really imagine Tiger quitting golf?? I could see taking a year off – a hiatus to “get his priorities straight” but quitting altogether? I don’t see that happening.