Comments for usayisay.com http://usayisay.com Dating and Relationship Advice from both Guys and Girls Thu, 04 Feb 2010 21:25:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 Comment on Surprise! No one wants to hear about your good relationship by Misty http://usayisay.com/surprise-no-one-wants-to-hear-about-your-good-relationship/comment-page-1#comment-135 Misty Thu, 04 Feb 2010 21:25:36 +0000 http://usayisay.com/?p=1238#comment-135 #1 - Does not apply to ladies. C'mon, all you modern men out there, embrace your mushiness! Ok, start by telling women about it, maybe your boys aren't as advanced as you and aren't ready for it :) But we'll eat it up. #2 - Unless my current boyfriend is being a huge d*ck, or I just got dumped, I am more than happy to listen to other people talk about their happy relationships! Even if one of those two situations does apply, I may not be as happy to hear about it, but I'll certainly listen, and I can appreciate why you want to tell me about it. In this crazy world we live in, I think its awesome that two people can make each other so happy. #3 - Hmmm.....well, lets put it this way. If you are my friend, that means that I like you and your personality, so I'm probably gonna be cool to listening to you talk about you & your sig. other, because you know better than to talk about weird boring crap. I'm happy to hear about the sweet stuff, bc I know its important to you. On the other hand, I have some acquaintances that I would like to put duct tape over their mouths, and thats why they are acquaintances. I (a) don't really care that much, and (b) they have sub-par story telling abilities. And, yes, you are right, guys will go on about some random subject forever even if you don't care :) #1 – Does not apply to ladies. C’mon, all you modern men out there, embrace your mushiness! Ok, start by telling women about it, maybe your boys aren’t as advanced as you and aren’t ready for it :) But we’ll eat it up. #2 – Unless my current boyfriend is being a huge d*ck, or I just got dumped, I am more than happy to listen to other people talk about their happy relationships! Even if one of those two situations does apply, I may not be as happy to hear about it, but I’ll certainly listen, and I can appreciate why you want to tell me about it. In this crazy world we live in, I think its awesome that two people can make each other so happy. #3 – Hmmm…..well, lets put it this way. If you are my friend, that means that I like you and your personality, so I’m probably gonna be cool to listening to you talk about you & your sig. other, because you know better than to talk about weird boring crap. I’m happy to hear about the sweet stuff, bc I know its important to you. On the other hand, I have some acquaintances that I would like to put duct tape over their mouths, and thats why they are acquaintances. I (a) don’t really care that much, and (b) they have sub-par story telling abilities.

And, yes, you are right, guys will go on about some random subject forever even if you don’t care :)

]]> Comment on Why it’s Impossible to Escape the “Friend Zone” by Jomash http://usayisay.com/why-its-impossible-to-escape-the-friend-zone/comment-page-1#comment-134 Jomash Wed, 03 Feb 2010 02:54:46 +0000 http://usayisay.com/?p=671#comment-134 That's fucked man, girls are heartless. Now I spell girl with a B. That’s fucked man, girls are heartless. Now I spell girl with a B.

]]> Comment on DEBATE: Will Elin Nordegren Divorce Tiger Woods Because of His Cheating? by karma http://usayisay.com/debate-will-elin-nordegren-divorce-tiger-woods-because-of-his-cheating/comment-page-1#comment-130 karma Sat, 19 Dec 2009 17:16:14 +0000 http://usayisay.com/?p=923#comment-130 If i was tiger woods i would save my marriage and go to counselling. Elin knows its good business to stick in the marriage. He got to be man enough to make it work or move forward. He will not quit golf.. This close on beating the golden bear and becoming elite golf. I don't think so. He should have sticked with he and been a good man. He has two kids.. If i was tiger woods i would save my marriage and go to counselling. Elin knows its good business to stick in the marriage. He got to be man enough to make it work or move forward. He will not quit golf.. This close on beating the golden bear and becoming elite golf. I don’t think so. He should have sticked with he and been a good man. He has two kids..

]]> Comment on DEBATE: Will Elin Nordegren Divorce Tiger Woods Because of His Cheating? by Sital Amin http://usayisay.com/debate-will-elin-nordegren-divorce-tiger-woods-because-of-his-cheating/comment-page-1#comment-129 Sital Amin Wed, 16 Dec 2009 00:44:35 +0000 http://usayisay.com/?p=923#comment-129 That's a good point - do you remove yourself from the temptation? He should, but he won't. I don't see him quitting golf - he's got that elusive Jack Nicklaus 18 staring him in the face. If it was a choice between winning 5 more majors (he has 14, 5 more and he would surpass Nicklaus) and his marriage to Elin, I think he's gonna pick golf. Sad, but very true. That’s a good point – do you remove yourself from the temptation? He should, but he won’t. I don’t see him quitting golf – he’s got that elusive Jack Nicklaus 18 staring him in the face.

If it was a choice between winning 5 more majors (he has 14, 5 more and he would surpass Nicklaus) and his marriage to Elin, I think he’s gonna pick golf. Sad, but very true.

]]> Comment on 6 Reasons Why Girls Make Guys Wait for Sex by Anna Jackson http://usayisay.com/6-reasons-why-girls-make-guys-wait-for-sex/comment-page-1#comment-128 Anna Jackson Mon, 14 Dec 2009 04:38:41 +0000 http://usayisay.com/?p=804#comment-128 The milk is sex. No one wants a cow (the relationship), because cows are way too much responsibility. But everyone wants milk! Milk is awesome. No one ever turns down milk. This analogy assumes that men are the only ones who enjoy sex. It also has to do with running across too many jerks who lead women on, meaning, we ladies assume sex is a committal step in the relationship and sometimes men don't see it that way. There's no set amount of time to wait...I think the timing is more related to what objectives both people have in the relationship, how willing they both are to take a risk, and how well they understand what's going on in the other person's mind, combined with their previous experiences (baggage!). Riggs- this used to be Lorien and my fave Saturday afternoon movie. Of course, getting the milk for free in this case was about living together and not getting married. But it's still pretty similar. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0218864/ The milk is sex. No one wants a cow (the relationship), because cows are way too much responsibility. But everyone wants milk! Milk is awesome. No one ever turns down milk.
This analogy assumes that men are the only ones who enjoy sex. It also has to do with running across too many jerks who lead women on, meaning, we ladies assume sex is a committal step in the relationship and sometimes men don’t see it that way.

There’s no set amount of time to wait…I think the timing is more related to what objectives both people have in the relationship, how willing they both are to take a risk, and how well they understand what’s going on in the other person’s mind, combined with their previous experiences (baggage!).

Riggs- this used to be Lorien and my fave Saturday afternoon movie. Of course, getting the milk for free in this case was about living together and not getting married. But it’s still pretty similar.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0218864/

]]> Comment on DEBATE: Will Elin Nordegren Divorce Tiger Woods Because of His Cheating? by Adam R-Z http://usayisay.com/debate-will-elin-nordegren-divorce-tiger-woods-because-of-his-cheating/comment-page-1#comment-127 Adam R-Z Sat, 12 Dec 2009 00:31:04 +0000 http://usayisay.com/?p=923#comment-127 I think this is a really good idea. To abstract it out: If you are a man or woman and you are doing things that put your relationship in jeopardy taking a step back from those things for a period of time makes sense. I'm not saying that playing golf makes Tiger sniff around (pun intended) but I would agree that not playing golf would force him to focus on other things, like his family life. With that said, can you really imagine Tiger quitting golf?? I could see taking a year off - a hiatus to "get his priorities straight" but quitting altogether? I don't see that happening. I think this is a really good idea. To abstract it out: If you are a man or woman and you are doing things that put your relationship in jeopardy taking a step back from those things for a period of time makes sense.

I’m not saying that playing golf makes Tiger sniff around (pun intended) but I would agree that not playing golf would force him to focus on other things, like his family life.

With that said, can you really imagine Tiger quitting golf?? I could see taking a year off – a hiatus to “get his priorities straight” but quitting altogether? I don’t see that happening.

]]> Comment on DEBATE: Will Elin Nordegren Divorce Tiger Woods Because of His Cheating? by Timmaayy http://usayisay.com/debate-will-elin-nordegren-divorce-tiger-woods-because-of-his-cheating/comment-page-1#comment-126 Timmaayy Sat, 12 Dec 2009 00:11:42 +0000 http://usayisay.com/?p=923#comment-126 It's not whether she is gonna divorce him or not. It's whether she's gonna make him quit golf. That's the only thing that could potentially redeem him in the public's eye as well. It’s not whether she is gonna divorce him or not. It’s whether she’s gonna make him quit golf. That’s the only thing that could potentially redeem him in the public’s eye as well.

]]> Comment on 6 Reasons Why Girls Make Guys Wait for Sex by Adam R-Z http://usayisay.com/6-reasons-why-girls-make-guys-wait-for-sex/comment-page-1#comment-125 Adam R-Z Thu, 10 Dec 2009 02:15:52 +0000 http://usayisay.com/?p=804#comment-125 So, I totally don't get the "buying the cow/free milk" thing. Someone please explain :) And how long is the amount of time you wait? Does it have to be a set time, or is it just until "it feels right"? I can see the argument both ways. So, I totally don’t get the “buying the cow/free milk” thing. Someone please explain :)

And how long is the amount of time you wait? Does it have to be a set time, or is it just until “it feels right”? I can see the argument both ways.

]]> Comment on 6 Reasons Why Girls Make Guys Wait for Sex by Misty http://usayisay.com/6-reasons-why-girls-make-guys-wait-for-sex/comment-page-1#comment-124 Misty Wed, 02 Dec 2009 01:49:30 +0000 http://usayisay.com/?p=804#comment-124 7. We like you, but it hasn't been that long, so we're not sure how you feel yet about this going anywhere. And its way too soon for "the talk". So we are going to be super bummed & feel very rejected if after we sleep with you, you dissapear into the night never to be heard from again. As is your right after only a couple of dates. Well, not the 'into the night' part, thats just in poor taste, at least wait until the next morning. 8. We've had it ground into our heads that we're supposed to make you wait, I think a lot for said reason above. And the whole buying the cow/free milk thing. 7. We like you, but it hasn’t been that long, so we’re not sure how you feel yet about this going anywhere. And its way too soon for “the talk”. So we are going to be super bummed & feel very rejected if after we sleep with you, you dissapear into the night never to be heard from again. As is your right after only a couple of dates. Well, not the ‘into the night’ part, thats just in poor taste, at least wait until the next morning.

8. We’ve had it ground into our heads that we’re supposed to make you wait, I think a lot for said reason above. And the whole buying the cow/free milk thing.

]]> Comment on Will Lamar Odom and Khloe Kardashian Last at least Two Years? by Adam R-Z http://usayisay.com/will-lamar-odom-and-khloe-kardashian-last-at-least-two-years/comment-page-1#comment-123 Adam R-Z Thu, 29 Oct 2009 18:42:13 +0000 http://usayisay.com/?p=884#comment-123 Ah Sital... the devil is in the details my friend... You see I am not saying they will remain in blissful, loving, devoted marriage for the rest of their lives. We all know celeb couples can be shakey. All I'm saying is that they are in love "enough" for it to last at least 2 years! Using your couple examples: - Nick & Jessica: Married >2 years (http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,1035928_1142096,00.html) - Carmen & Dave: Married >2 years (http://www.mtv.com/news/articles/1536515/20060717/electra_carmen.jhtml) - Travis & Shanna: Married 22 months but renewing vows (http://anythinghollywood.com/2009/03/travis-barker-and-shanna-moakler-getting-re-married/) I could go on but you see my point. Victory for Riggz! Ah Sital… the devil is in the details my friend…

You see I am not saying they will remain in blissful, loving, devoted marriage for the rest of their lives. We all know celeb couples can be shakey.

All I’m saying is that they are in love “enough” for it to last at least 2 years!

Using your couple examples:
- Nick & Jessica: Married >2 years
(http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,1035928_1142096,00.html)
- Carmen & Dave: Married >2 years
(http://www.mtv.com/news/articles/1536515/20060717/electra_carmen.jhtml)
- Travis & Shanna: Married 22 months but renewing vows
(http://anythinghollywood.com/2009/03/travis-barker-and-shanna-moakler-getting-re-married/)

I could go on but you see my point. Victory for Riggz!

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