DEBATE: Did Steve McNair Deserve to be Shot?
July 12, 2009 by Adam and Sital
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Steve McNair, a 36 year old former Pro-Bowl quarterback for the Tennessee Titans and Baltimore Ravens was having an affair with Sahel Kazemi, a 20 year old bartender at Dave & Buster’s.
The two were having an affair for approximately 5 months and appeared to getting serious. According to reports, Steve promised to leave his wife and Sahel posted her furniture for sale on Craigslist in the hopes of moving in together.
Their relationship turned tragic when both Steve and Sahel were found shot dead on the couch of Steve’s condo. All evidence points to Sahel having shot Steve while he slept and then shot herself, in the hopes of falling into his lap.
Investigators speculate that Steve was not only rethinking the decision to leave his wife but that he also had a second mistress in addition to Sahel. More details are available here.
Question for debate: Did Steve deserve to be shot under these circumstances?
Let me start this by making an obvious observation: Steve didn't make the best set of decisions here. This was like OJ running in the white bronco, Miss South Carolina deciding to speak, and us electing George Bush (twice!) all-in-one.
Not only did he cheat on his wife, not only did he let down his family and his community, but he did it with somebody COMPLETELY F*%KING NUTS.
But despite his transgressions, in no way did he deserve to be shot! I can't believe Sital would even consider this.
See the thing is, I feel really bad for Steve and not just because of how he died. I'm no psychologist, but it doesn't take a PhD to put this together: Steve was likely going through a tough time transitioning from football. He went from performing in front of large crowds every Sunday to spending his Sunday's sitting on his couch. From adoration of thousands, to quiet weekends. From hanging with teammates, to hanging with his family. I can see that being a tough transition.
So what happens? He meets a bartender at Dave & Buster's and they end up having crazy, freaky, neck-bitin', ass-spanking, reverse-cowgirlin sex. How do I know this? Because she was clearly CRAZY and CRAZY people have CRAZY wild sex.
Compare that to his likely lovin with his wife and mother of 4. I don't know this for sure, but its safe to say that things probably weren't as freaky at home as they would be with a 20 year old bartender. Its not hard to figure out why he was in lust.
Don't miss interpret: I'm not excusing his actions. He disrespected his family, his community and his legacy. He caused a lot of heartache to those that loved and admired him.
All I'm saying is that he didn't deserve to be shot 4 times on his couch while he slept. Talk about excessive punishment!
Many of you are going to say that I'm cold-blooded when you read this.
I am one of those people that believes there is absolutely no excuse for cheating. None. Zero. I've lost a couple of friends over the issue. They cheated on their spouse, I found out or knew about it, I said my peace and that was the end of our friendship. It's a horrible, horrible moral breach in my book.
That brings me to the recently departed Steve.
I know you are not supposed to say horrible things about the dead, but the manner in which he died is perhaps the grossest of all misdeeds. Not only does he get shot by his mistress and leave his children fatherless, but he leaves his family to deal with a full-court press of public humiliation and embarrassment.
His wife & kids are forever going to be stuck with the legacy of their father, not as the amazing NFL quarterback, the one-time NFL MVP. He won't be remembered as the amazing individual that bought semi-trucks on his own dime, got them to Mississippi somehow and helped countless Katrina victims. He's going to be that pro-football player that got shot by his mistress and then killed herself.
Did he deserve to get shot? Yes, but not for cheating. He's just a jerk for that. He deserved it for what he has done to his children and to his wife. Here's a guy that has done some amazing things in his life, has given back to his community many times over, has been a wonderful father by all accounts and he threw this incredible life away for sex & giggles.
The moral of the story: before you decide to take that final step and enter Cheaterville, ask yourself if it's worth hurting the people who love you most and throwing away everything you've built.
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I have to agree with Adam on this one. If the punishment is supposed to fit the crime then being shot is not a reasonable punishment for cheating. Besides, it wasn’t Steve’s wife who shot him, but his mistress, who was apparently misguided about where the relationship was going. I would like to put blame on the mistress. There are plenty of single men out out there and hooking up with a married man is wrong, plain and simple. Ladies, we need to look out for each other and married = taken. So back off!
TAKE THAT SITAL!
I really liked your point about the blame being on the mistress. You hear that fellas? If you cheat, it’s not your fault – its the fault of the mistress!
The 8th Amendment to the Constitution provides there shall be no cruel or unusual punishment with respect to criminal conduct. While McNair’s conduct was morally reprehensible it was not criminal. Certainly, taking a bullet to each temple does not fit the “crime” of cheating on your wife. Aside from paying the ultimate price for having chosen one crazy B-atch, it is McNair’s sons who will forever be deprived of their father. Needing some strange p—y is something most men can relate to. Taking four shots to the head and chest is not. While not commendable behavior, it is NUTS to think cheating on your spouse justifies/excuses MURDER.
Any time the constitution gets brought up in a debate you know its serious. I think the excessive punishment argument makes a lot of sense.
Once again, I’m not saying that he deserved to be short FOR CHEATING.
He deserved for what he has done to his family – publish humiliation & embarrassment for his wife & his now fatherless children. He deserves it for throwing away his amazing legacy in exchange for “crazy, freaky, neck-bitin’, ass-spanking, reverse-cowgirlin sex.”
I would have to agree that no one deserves to be shot for cheating. While Steve McNair obviously made some really poor choices, I’m sure his family would not have chosen his death for “what he did to them.” I would definitely blame McNair for making some really bad choices, but this girl was clearly pretty nuts. It’s pretty sad for everyone that she thought killing McNair and herself was the only way out of this situation which had only taken five months to develop in the first place. Too bad she couldn’t have just cut her losses and moved on.
+1 for Adam just for “crazy, freaky, neck-bitin’, ass-spanking, reverse-cowgirlin sex.” Yes, I am male, and yes, I am also a pig.