Comments on: DEBATE: Go to a Fantasy Football Draft or to a Friends Wedding?

By: aspire

aspire — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 06:04:23 +0000

Nice………………..

By: Jordan Zucker

Jordan Zucker — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 21:12:43 +0000

In my league, the draft is required, we even have ladies video chat in.
However, I would never schedule it for a time when someone has a wedding. We usually do week nights so nobody has a big event conflict. It seems like “big events” are a burden to some people, they are something to look forward to for me. It is important to me to share my friends milestones with them.
To me a friends wedding is just as important as a family member’s wedding, as I treat my friends like my family, my chosen family.
It really isn’t an issue of whether someone could go to a wedding solo or not. Everyone can, it isn’t a big deal.
But relationships are not only around when it’s convenient. Unless there is a personal issue where he doesn’t like the bride and groom, he should be there.
I probably would do both. See if the draft time could be moved up or down, if not the wedding wins. But the real fault lies in the planning of the draft.

By: Sital Amin

Sital Amin — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 04:05:23 +0000

It ain’t over, till it’s over. Where are all the guys out there? So far, it’s just the ladies giving a shout out. Weigh in my friends, weigh in!!!

By: Sital Amin

Sital Amin — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 04:03:22 +0000

What’s next ladies? Are we going to be forcing guys to escort us to everything? Baby showers? Co-ed/couples showers?

It’s about how close a friend the person getting married is. The scenario clearly calls the person getting married “Jessica’s friend” and “also a friend of Tony’s” and doesn’t state whether it’s the bride or groom.

If it’s a really good friend, of course he should go. If it’s a friend who Tony doesn’t consider all that close or a friend through Jessica, then I still think he should get a pass.

By: AT

AT — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 16:56:20 +0000

Both Ashley and JustDroppingBy make good points. I can see both points of view, too, and although initially inclined to say “definitely go to the wedding because it only happens once,” it depends on how good of a friend we’re talking about. Is the friend who’s getting married really close with both Jessica and Tony, or at least Jessica? Does Jessica really care if Tony goes to the wedding? Just like most dating/relationship situations, there is no cookie-cutter answer… it all really depends on a lot of details like this.

Clearly, if this is a close friend Tony needs to go to the wedding. Relationships are more important than anything else, and if Tony opts to do the fantasy draft instead of the wedding chances are he’ll choose other things before the relationship down the road, too. If he’s serious about the relationship, bottom line is he needs to invest in it, just like anything else that is important in life. And if he doesn’t – he’s probably going to lose it at some point. It’s just the way it is.

If this is not a very close friend, and Jessica doesn’t really care (I could go to a wedding by myself – have done that, especially if I know other people there), and Tony would rather do the fantasy draft – then by all means, that’s totally cool.

However, there is one interesting thing about the debate question. It says, “Tony knows he should go to the wedding.” Well, if that’s the case, then is there really a debate about it?

By: Ashley

Ashley — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 16:36:40 +0000

I can understand both points of view, because both of you are making the same under-lying argument: give up something important to you to show your significant other that you care about them.

I do think JustStoppingBy makes a good point that fantasy football happens every year and a wedding is a once in a lifetime event (although unfortunately, I think the average is probably higher than one marriage). There are a lot of weddings that seem to come up though, so

I think it really depends on how important the draft is to the guy versus the wedding to the lady. As Steven Covey would say “where are you?” (you then rate how important the issue is to you on a scale from 1 to 10 and then decide if it is necessary to debate)

By: Richard B

Richard B — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 02:13:55 +0000

Do we know if Tony is just casual friends with the bride and/or groom? That is, introduced through Jessica? It seems that if so, and since Tony’s annual event pre-dates his relationship w/ Jessica, he could opt to attend his annual event. It doesn’t matter that it is sports related. It could be any other date-dependent tradition (ie. family reunion, grandma’s 100th birthday, conflicting wedding, sister’s graduation, military reunion, etc.)

But just in case, Tony may want to make sure that the couch is extremely comfortable before putting his foot down …

By: JustDroppingBy

JustDroppingBy — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 18:23:41 +0000

I totally agree with everything in FantasySportsWidow’s post. Now I consider myself to be a laid back girlfriend, and I LOVE sports, but this seriously, should not even be a debate. Fantasy football is fun, yes. And it can win you a lot of money, yes. But it in no way takes priority over a friend’s wedding, which is (as mentioned in the post above) a “major life event”.

Who cares about scoring points with your male friends? If you are a cool person to begin with, you don’t need extra points and you must be really insecure if you need that extra validation from your friends.

Girls….having your boyfriend attend the football draft over your friend’s wedding means he actually is choosing gambling over you and whether you are fine with it or not means nothing. He doesn’t care about you. And while there is absolutely nothing wrong with attending any wedding solo, in this case, at the wedding, you look like a total pushover with a loser boyfriend who only cares about himself.

Bottom line – A fantasy football draft is a fun event that happens once a year. You miss it this year, no biggie, you’ll do it next year. A wedding is a major event that happens once in a lifetime. Period. The choice is obvious.

By: Adam R-Z

Adam R-Z — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 17:19:51 +0000

Damn – poor Sital… getting lit up by the anti-fantasy sports ladies! Looks like I win another debate

By: FantasySportsWidow

FantasySportsWidow — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 00:21:20 +0000

Seriously? Is this really a debate? If you can’t decide whether to go to a friend’s wedding or do a fantasy draft then you are a total loser and don’t deserve an invitation! And Sital! Shame on you for promoting this behavior just to be seen as a cool chick?! Hardly a win-win as poor Jessica is dancing with the ring bearer! Pathetic!
But since you’re so cool, I am sure you won’t mind when your friends miss your major life events because they have to walk their dog…