Comments on: FINALLY EXPLAINED: Why Girls Don’t Like Porn http://usayisay.com/finally-explained-why-girls-dont-like-porn Dating and Relationship Advice from both Guys and Girls Fri, 01 Jul 2011 15:27:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Nina http://usayisay.com/finally-explained-why-girls-dont-like-porn/comment-page-1#comment-153 Nina Mon, 21 Mar 2011 13:15:11 +0000 http://usayisay.com/?p=796#comment-153 A little research goes a long way. I don't see any solid facts in this. I don't like guy porn not because I am neurotically waiting for Prince Charming. The age that I started caring about the opposite sex didn't line up with the time that the boys I knew claimed to feel their desires begin. We grew up and still exist in a sexist society, inundated with images of "woman as sexual object." There are many ways we absorb knowledge, they are even finding out that babies see and store information to understand later. My point is that this most definitely has some cause and effect relationship to boys and men letting themselves indulge in a porn habit. I have heard from male friends that when they go through puberty sex is on their mind 24/7 and that they really will do anything to get it, they chalk it up to hormones. However, I believe the effect our over sexualized culture has on young men is underestimated and if a boy believes it is hormonal, he will more easily allow himself to watch that crap which is often very, very objectifying to women; harmful to his budding sexuality in that it shapes his desires based on an over the top caricature of ready made male fantasies that really have nothing to do with the sexual desires of the women who will one day be his sexual partners. Not to say that women aren't vulnerable as well to being impressed with pornographic desires. I know a young man who realized this himself at a young age and was successful in waiting out his "burnings" until they went away. I don't think this extreme is necessary and fantasy models are good for this time in a boys life, just not the pornographic kind but this particular man can remain celibate and faithful in a relationship if sex isn't healthy for the girl in his life for a certain time. Anyway, BOYS don't even let yourself watch porn unless it is porn for women, made by women for women. There is over lap. Read erotic stories written by women. Sex without the pornographic blinders is much more sexy and amazing. I don't like porn for these reasons. When I find out a man has a porn habit, nothing can gross me out more. It is really a turn off. One more note, women sometimes learn to touch into their sexuality with the help of a man, well in the same regard a men can learn from women that our hating porn is not because we are behind the times as the author seems to suggest or not quite at your step yet, but that PORN is not realistic, we don't like it so why would you want it to play any part in your future encounters with us? Learn restraint from us. Think of your own fantasies, use your imagination, write it down and let your mind and body flow freely. A little research goes a long way. I don’t see any solid facts in this. I don’t like guy porn not because I am neurotically waiting for Prince Charming. The age that I started caring about the opposite sex didn’t line up with the time that the boys I knew claimed to feel their desires begin.

We grew up and still exist in a sexist society, inundated with images of “woman as sexual object.” There are many ways we absorb knowledge, they are even finding out that babies see and store information to understand later. My point is that this most definitely has some cause and effect relationship to boys and men letting themselves indulge in a porn habit.

I have heard from male friends that when they go through puberty sex is on their mind 24/7 and that they really will do anything to get it, they chalk it up to hormones. However, I believe the effect our over sexualized culture has on young men is underestimated and if a boy believes it is hormonal, he will more easily allow himself to watch that crap which is often very, very objectifying to women; harmful to his budding sexuality in that it shapes his desires based on an over the top caricature of ready made male fantasies that really have nothing to do with the sexual desires of the women who will one day be his sexual partners. Not to say that women aren’t vulnerable as well to being impressed with pornographic desires.

I know a young man who realized this himself at a young age and was successful in waiting out his “burnings” until they went away. I don’t think this extreme is necessary and fantasy models are good for this time in a boys life, just not the pornographic kind but this particular man can remain celibate and faithful in a relationship if sex isn’t healthy for the girl in his life for a certain time.

Anyway, BOYS don’t even let yourself watch porn unless it is porn for women, made by women for women. There is over lap. Read erotic stories written by women. Sex without the pornographic blinders is much more sexy and amazing.

I don’t like porn for these reasons. When I find out a man has a porn habit, nothing can gross me out more. It is really a turn off.

One more note, women sometimes learn to touch into their sexuality with the help of a man, well in the same regard a men can learn from women that our hating porn is not because we are behind the times as the author seems to suggest or not quite at your step yet, but that PORN is not realistic, we don’t like it so why would you want it to play any part in your future encounters with us? Learn restraint from us. Think of your own fantasies, use your imagination, write it down and let your mind and body flow freely.

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