Guys: Why Girls Get Frustrated When You Play Video Games
August 17, 2009 by Rachel W.
Filed under Girls, Explained
You’ve had a rough week at work and all you want to do is settle down with a bottle of beer and your Xbox and blow some shit up, y’know? But there’s your girlfriend. Standing in front of the TV. Nagging. Again.
Your video game habit may be destroying your relationship bit by bit without you even realizing it. (On the other hand, if you WANT to destroy your relationship, then keep on gaming hardcore until she leaves you!)
We’d rather you pay attention to us
Women are a bit like cats. If you’ve ever been around a cat, you know that cats like to conveniently position themselves right in your line of sight. They want to be sure you notice them, that you pet them. If that involves sitting on your laptop, so be it.
Sometimes, we want attention. We walk into the living room and see you, controller in hand, unblinking eyes riveted at the screen. You’re fully absorbed. We’re totally alone.
You’ve neglected some important things
Let’s face it, when you’re deep into a game and determined to win, there are some things that get neglected. For example, you eat in front of the television and because you’re not paying attention, a good 20% of the food destined for your mouth ends up mashed into the sofa cushions or the carpet. (No, the dog is not a viable vacuum cleaner.)
It’s all you talk about
We’d love to talk with you, but all you want to discuss is how kickass your last raid was and how you totally scored that broadsword you’ve been eyeing for months. Um, yeah. Unless we play the same game as you, we’re not going to feel connected to you hearing about all this game stuff.
We go to bed lonely and horny
As a former gamer widow myself, I can tell you that there were nights I TRIED to get my boyfriend pried away from his computer. I’d walk into the room buck naked and attempt to convince him to at least have some fun with me for a half hour before I had to go to sleep. But no, his MMORPG was more important. His guild needed him. He was the main tank, or whatever. Meanwhile, I was going to bed alone and feeling bitter that I had to go to sleep horny. When he came to bed at 3 am and tried to wake me for sex, I’d elbow him in the gut and go back to sleep. Needless to say, we broke up several months later.
Your gaming could be destroying your relationship. The only way to really know for sure is to ask your girlfriend how she feels about it. Set date nights when you spend time together and fill up her tank with all the love she needs to get through a couple nights when you’re stabbing monsters or blowing up evil robots. She’ll thank you for it.
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“I’d walk into the room buck naked and attempt to convince him to at least have some fun with me for a half hour before I had to go to sleep. But no, his MMORPG was more important. His guild needed him.”
That can’t be true. If it is, it’s disgusting the man needs some help.