The Three Best Break up Excuses for Guys

So it’s over with this girl, huh. Damn! Breaking up is hard, but unfortunately it’s something that if you’re in the dating game, you just have to do now and again.

Luckily for you, this article has your back on some of the essentials that you’re going to need. First of all, you’re going to need a break up excuse. And before you say anything, you DO need a break up excuse! In case you had some charmingly quaint notion about telling the truth – don’t. Just don’t. There is a time for honesty, and a time for lies, and this is definitely the latter of the two. Read more

How A Guy Knows When He’s Got You Hooked

Ever heard of the expression ‘doggy dinner bowl look’?

Like a hungry puppy dog contemplating a bowl of food, the doggy dinner bowl look (or DDBL) is one of unrestrained desire, and for men who recognize it, it’s the ultimate signal that a woman is all yours. Of course, you have to watch for it, and it can be easy to miss!

Failing the DDBL, the next best signal that lets us know you’re ours is when you start to laugh at all our jokes (let’s face it, not all of them are funny). That’s a pretty sure signal too.

As a matter of fact, in the ’seduction community’ (these are the guys who’ve elevated getting girls to an art form), the gold standard for knowing a woman is interested in you is three ‘IOIs’ within a short space of time. IOI stands for ‘indicator of interest‘, and it could be anything from the above mentioned laughter-at-bad-jokes, to the classic playing-with-the-hair, to compliments, touching, leaning in, holding hands while squeezing through a crowd and then not letting go straight away afterwords, and so on.

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Not all men are so knowledgeable about women though, so if you want to let a guy know you like him, sometimes you’ll need to spell out your interest a little more clearly…yes, a written invitation would be lovely, thanks.

Of course, this all relates strictly to when we first meet you. A little further along in the relationship, how do we know you’re getting serious about us? …Well, sex is usually a good start! If that hurdle has already been jumped, then the final signal we look for that it’s not merely a fling for you is either or both of the following:

1) Any sign of jealousy – for example, we talk to another girl on a night out, and you get bent out of shape about it; and 2) Being introduced to your friends or family. Why these two things? Read on to find out.

Jealousy

Why is jealousy a powerful indicator that we’ve got you hooked? Because jealousy is reserved for people we feel something for. In order to be jealous of someone, you have to care about them in the first place. It’s exactly the same for men as it is for women, and as an aside, this is why while it’s fine to recount tales of your sexual (mis)adventures with a guy you’re seeing on a casual basis, it’s not a good idea to do the same thing with a guy you’re serious about.

A man who’s really into you doesn’t want to think about you being with anyone else, whether it’s in the present, the future, or a day before your 16^th birthday upstairs at Susie Mitchell’s party with that boy from the 10^th grade. Men are funny like that. So keep it to yourself.

Meeting your friends or family

When people get a new boyfriend or girlfriend that they like and are serious about, they always (consciously or subconsciously) want the approval of their friends and family. This works a little differently for guys, because if you’re really hot, we might introduce you to our mates strictly on a ‘check-out-the-girl-I’m-doing-it-with, not-bad-eh basis’, but generally people introduce their lovers to friends and family because they’re seeking approval of their choice.

So: when you invite us to dinner at your parent’s place, brunch with your sister, or even on a night out with your friends, and then you get jealous if we spend too much time talking to the other ladies in the group, we know that’s a sure signal you want us to stick around!

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DEBATE: When You’re Breaking Up With Someone Should You Tell Them You Cheated?

Steve and Liz dated for almost a year before their relationship started to hit the skids.  Over the past month, Liz has become increasingly distant and their arguments went from minor tiffs to major yelling matches.

Liz believes that its time for them to break up and go their separate ways.  However, she is debating if she should bring up the fact that she cheated on Steve about a month ago.  She thinks it could help explain why they have been fighting so much, but is unsure if it’s too much information at this point.

Should Liz tell Steve that she cheated or just keep it to her self?

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If You Don’t Stop Telling Your Girlfriend These 5 Things, You’ll Hate Yourself Later

Have you heard this one? “Honesty is the best policy.” Ah, no, it’s not. At least not always, and certainly not when it comes to people that you really care about. One of the justifiable reasons for not telling the whole truth, is to protect someone’s feelings, and this should apply to your girlfriend most of all! So don’t leap to the conclusion that just because you’re in a relationship the rule about not oversharing doesn’t apply. Read more

PODCAST: Should You Tell the Woman You’re Dating You Have a Small Penis?

For this U Say, I Say podcast we posed a fictional problem to our panelists and asked them to weigh in and debate the how the problem should be resolved.  What you’ll hear is how different people with different backgrounds from all over the country would recommend dealing with a given situation. Read more

A Review of a Kick-Ass Compatibility Test

When I first saw the International Relationship Institutes compatibility test, my first thought was “Why do I need this?”

You see I have been in a great relationship for the past two years and it seems to me we are very compatible.  We enjoying sports (both playing and watching), both work in technology  - even both love jalapenos!  How much more compatible can you be?  Why would I need some “test” to tell me if we’re good for each other? Read more

Why It’s Ok to Lie to the Person You’re Dating

STOP! WAIT! I know what you’re expecting here: one of those dull treatises on the best response to the immortal question “does my ass look big in this?”

Well don’t worry, because this article is NOT going to go there. That would be tired, lame and clichéd. No, this is going to an exciting treatise on the best response to the immortal question “so what do you think of my friends?” Read more

PODCAST: What Role Does Text Messaging Play in Dating?

In this U Say, I Say podcast we explore the role of texting in relationships.  Do men and women view texting differently?  Does it’s role change from when you’re single to when you’re in a relationship?  Is the “booty blast” an effective means of getting some lovin for the night?  Our panel discusses! Read more

Warning: Girls, If You’re Sharing this Information You Could be Jeopardizing Your Dating Success

How much information is too much information?  Are there things you should just keep to yourself?  Isn’t a relationship about sharing everything with each other?  Not everything-everything, girls.  There are things your us guys just doesn’t want to hear. Read more