The Three Best Break up Excuses for Guys

So it’s over with this girl, huh. Damn! Breaking up is hard, but unfortunately it’s something that if you’re in the dating game, you just have to do now and again.

Luckily for you, this article has your back on some of the essentials that you’re going to need. First of all, you’re going to need a break up excuse. And before you say anything, you DO need a break up excuse! In case you had some charmingly quaint notion about telling the truth – don’t. Just don’t. There is a time for honesty, and a time for lies, and this is definitely the latter of the two. Read more

The Secret of Why Guys Like to Watch Porn

Have you ever looked through the 25c bin in an antiques store, and come across some of those sepia-tint dirty postcards from the 1920s?

If you have, maybe it was of a naked lady with a tasteful hairdo, posing tastefully in a nice outdoor setting. Believe it or not, in the 1920s, that was hardcore pornography.

But by today’s standards, that kind of thing is no longer exactly what you would call lurid, is it- not exactly on any kind of a level with, say, MILF Hunter, the Pam & Tommy video, or The Bang Bus.

No, whichever way you look at it, pornography has really changed a lot over the years.

Even as recently as the 1980s, pornography meant your older brother’s secret stash of well-loved Playboy magazines. You’d sneak into his room when he was out, pick your favorite out of the pile and nervously thumb through the pages. Usually the women were too hairy for you to get a good idea of what you were looking at, but by god it was still a turn-on!

Things today are a little different.

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Even porn DVDs are passé now that the internet allows us the ability to see any kind of porn we want, wherever and whenever we want, and very often for free. Fetishes…interracial…gangbangs and beyond, it’s all there. (Trust me, I’ve checked…hey, I had to do my research!) And age, money, sexual preference, time of day – none of these are any barrier to accessing the pornographic world.

And make no mistake; men all around the world are consuming that porn avidly. Maybe not every single one, but you can bet that 95% of those with an internet connection at home and a free hand to touch themselves with are at least semi-regular consumers. Yes, including your little brother. Yes, including your dad. Yes, including your boyfriend.

So the big question: why do we watch it?

The answer is that men watch porn because it’s a turn-on (bet you weren’t expecting THAT!), and frankly, getting horny feels good (again, a shocking revelation). You see, the thing is that seeing or hearing or imagining other people have sex is meant to be a turn-on; it’s nature’s way of ensuring that if other people are getting some in our vicinity we’re not left out of the action! It’s just that the ’seeing or hearing or imagining’ part is so much easier now than it was when we all we had were those dirty postcards, and of course the ‘in our vicinity’ part left the building as soon as we starting painting on cave walls.

Also, pornography scratches that itch inside all men that drives us to try and bed a variety of women, rather than staying faithful to just one. Until they update the definition of cheating to include what goes on in our heads, looking at porn is a kind of guilt-free release valve for our more basic lusts. So as distasteful as it might be to you, keep in mind that the alternative might be a lot worse.

It would be nice if it ended there, but unfortunately it doesn’t. It’s hard to watch a lot of something without it having an influence on the way you think, and it’s true that over time porn does do this. It’s hard to watch orgy after orgy, for example, without feeling like you should be taking part in more orgies, and that’s a feeling that’s likely to cause problems. Basically, while porn in small doses is harmless, a porn addiction is not healthy.

The moral of the story is a simple one, and it’s this: like most pleasures in life, porn is best enjoyed in moderation…with a lady friend…or two

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Guys: Is Your Lady Awkward in Bed? Here’s How to Fix it!

Ah, the horizontal tango. Knocking boots. Making the beast with two backs. Parking the pink Plymouth in the garage of love. Sexual congress. Sex: it’s a beautiful thing! And there sure are a lot of euphemisms for it.

Unfortunately, if it’s also a new activity for you and your lady friend, it’s entirely possible that there might be some awkwardness involved. Not on your part, of course -you’re a demon in the sack, natch – but on hers. Obviously this is not a good thing.

So what causes this and what can you do about it? Let’s take a look in a little more detail: Read more

The Obvious (but still funny) Reasons Why a Guy Wont Spend the Night with You After Sex

In the imperial court of Japan in the 10^th-century A.D., extra-marital relations were common, and people often had multiple lovers. After a night-time assignation, the man would stroll home through the dewy morn, composing a poem for his lady friend as he walked. Romantic, no? Well 1100 years later, things have changed! Far from staying the night, then leaving only when dawn breaks in order to work on one’s poetry, sometimes now men just want to do the business, get up, wipe themselves on the curtains, and get out of there ASAP!

…Which is a little odd, when you think about it. After all, sex is great (…really, REALLY great), but cuddling/snuggling/spooning someone you’re attracted to, going to sleep with them (in a dopey, pleasant post-sex haze aka “O time”), then waking up next to them – that’s pretty great too, even if you don’t want or intend for things to go beyond the one encounter. Besides, there’s always the chance of a little (or even a lot) more action come the morning. Surely no rational person would pass all of this up for a taxi and a cold, empty bed?

Look, there’s no easy way to say this. The indelicate truth is that if we don’t want to spend the night with you, it’s probably because we’re no longer horny or quite as drunk. Sorry! Told you it was indelicate.

So that’s one reason, and the most common one. Another reason might be that we think you’re going to expect a relationship to follow our night of sweaty passion, and we don’t want that because we’re just not that into you. We think that if we stay the night, you might take that as evidence that we are that into you, and that would be awkward, so it’s better to go sooner rather than later.

Oh, one final reason – because by having sex with you we’re cheating on someone else, and (again, now that we’re no longer horny or quite as drunk) we suddenly feel very guilty about it.

So there are three main reasons: 1) We’re now sober; 2) We think you want a relationship and we’re not that into you, and 3) You’re the Other Woman (you home wrecker!). Question: answered!

While we’re on the subject though, it needs to be said that whichever way you slice it, and whatever the reasons are, leaving immediately after sex is pretty bad form. If you’re a woman and a guy does it to you, you have every right to be annoyed about it. Hell, don’t just get annoyed about it, curse the guy out! Really give him a piece of your mind. Quote this article if you need to. The post-coital cuddle is surely an assumed part of any sexual invitation, and it should be observed. If people signed contracts before sex (hmm…not a bad idea!), one can imagine it being a prominent term…right after the space where you initial to indicate that any oral activity will be reciprocated in full

Why it’s Impossible to Escape the “Friend Zone”

Ever wonder why you’re always in the friend zone and never get the booty you deserve?  You can find all the answers in The Ladder Theory (http://www.laddertheory.com/).  But since you’re a busy guy, let me summarize this excellent piece of sociological work for you. Read more

DEBATE: When You’re Breaking Up With Someone Should You Tell Them You Cheated?

Steve and Liz dated for almost a year before their relationship started to hit the skids.  Over the past month, Liz has become increasingly distant and their arguments went from minor tiffs to major yelling matches.

Liz believes that its time for them to break up and go their separate ways.  However, she is debating if she should bring up the fact that she cheated on Steve about a month ago.  She thinks it could help explain why they have been fighting so much, but is unsure if it’s too much information at this point.

Should Liz tell Steve that she cheated or just keep it to her self?

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Guys: Why Girls Get Frustrated When You Play Video Games

You’ve had a rough week at work and all you want to do is settle down with a bottle of beer and your Xbox and blow some shit up, y’know?  But there’s your girlfriend.  Standing in front of the TV.  Nagging.  Again. Read more

What Not to Do on a First Date

So there’s a girl you like, and you’re thinking about asking her out on a date. Fair enough, that’s the traditional way of doing things!

But hold up a second there cowboy. If you really want the inside story on this whole dating thing, you should be aware that the whole going-out-to-dinner thing is WAY overrated. Read more

A Review of a Kick-Ass Compatibility Test

When I first saw the International Relationship Institutes compatibility test, my first thought was “Why do I need this?”

You see I have been in a great relationship for the past two years and it seems to me we are very compatible.  We enjoying sports (both playing and watching), both work in technology  - even both love jalapenos!  How much more compatible can you be?  Why would I need some “test” to tell me if we’re good for each other? Read more

PODCAST: What Role Does Text Messaging Play in Dating?

In this U Say, I Say podcast we explore the role of texting in relationships.  Do men and women view texting differently?  Does it’s role change from when you’re single to when you’re in a relationship?  Is the “booty blast” an effective means of getting some lovin for the night?  Our panel discusses! Read more

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