Comments on: Top 10 Signs that Moving In Together with Your Guy Would be a Good Idea http://usayisay.com/top-10-signs-that-moving-in-together-with-your-guy-would-be-a-good-idea Dating and Relationship Advice from both Guys and Girls Fri, 01 Jul 2011 15:27:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Adam R-Z http://usayisay.com/top-10-signs-that-moving-in-together-with-your-guy-would-be-a-good-idea/comment-page-1#comment-70 Adam R-Z Fri, 04 Sep 2009 01:41:41 +0000 http://usayisay.com/?p=639#comment-70 Misty! - What a great response. Thanks for taking the time to contribute to the discussion! I'd love to turn your post into a full article and see what others think. I agree that if you move in prematurely, it can be bad for a relationship. But if you're giving your boyfriend's name on beneficiary forms, is it really premature? (see above list for context :) I also agree about the intensity of ripping clothes off at the end of the date, but isn't that why they created alcohol? (I kid, I kid). Seriously though I think that fading intensity has less to do with people living together than how often they are gettin' busy. If you're living with someone and you're knockin boots 12 times a week, you're probably not quite as intense on that 12th time. But if you live together and because you're both really busy with work & life and that date is the one time in the last week you've had a chance to really focus on each other, I would bet your just as eager as if you didn't share a bedroom. Misty! – What a great response. Thanks for taking the time to contribute to the discussion! I’d love to turn your post into a full article and see what others think.

I agree that if you move in prematurely, it can be bad for a relationship. But if you’re giving your boyfriend’s name on beneficiary forms, is it really premature? (see above list for context :)

I also agree about the intensity of ripping clothes off at the end of the date, but isn’t that why they created alcohol? (I kid, I kid). Seriously though I think that fading intensity has less to do with people living together than how often they are gettin’ busy.

If you’re living with someone and you’re knockin boots 12 times a week, you’re probably not quite as intense on that 12th time.

But if you live together and because you’re both really busy with work & life and that date is the one time in the last week you’ve had a chance to really focus on each other, I would bet your just as eager as if you didn’t share a bedroom.

]]> By: Misty http://usayisay.com/top-10-signs-that-moving-in-together-with-your-guy-would-be-a-good-idea/comment-page-1#comment-66 Misty Thu, 20 Aug 2009 01:12:51 +0000 http://usayisay.com/?p=639#comment-66 I gotta say, I think that moving in with a signifiant other prematurely ages a relationship. When a relationship is all new and exciting, you want to keep it that way for as long as possible. Girls, think about when you are getting ready to go on a date with your man. You're doing your hair and your makeup, getting excited about when he comes over, and when he walks in the door you can greet him all fabulous looking. When you live with someone, they're there when you put on your deoderant. Think about it this way...This is the normal sequence of a date: get picked up while lookin all cute, go to event, spend much of event thinking about the other person naked, go home and put all that sexual energy towards getting the other person naked. When you live together, if you are both showering and getting ready, you start off naked - and usually not naked in any sexual capacity, since getting dressed around the other person has become a daily occurrence (if every time you see your significant roomie naked you MUST have sex with them, I hope your job and your friends are very accepting of the fact that you are always late) This inevitably makes your drive to rip their clothes off at the end of the date just a little less intense. And I don't know about the rest of you, but I really enjoy sleeping in the other person's bed. It's nice to have a regular change of scenery, and unless you plan to run up some lofty hotel bills, this is the only way to do it. And I'm sure we can all agree that when faced with the daily post-work decision of (a) going to the gym or (b) cuddling and watching tv, one is just a little more enticing than the other. Once you're looking to really get serious and settle down, yes of course you should live with the other person. And of course there are many wonderful experiences to be had when finally going down that road. I'm just saying - I know it would be super-convenient when half your stuff tends to be over there anyway, but I think it takes a little bit of the spark out of your relationship when you make this move, so why not try to stretch out your honeymoon period for as long as possible. There will be plenty of time to yell at each other for not doing the dishes later :) I gotta say, I think that moving in with a signifiant other prematurely ages a relationship. When a relationship is all new and exciting, you want to keep it that way for as long as possible. Girls, think about when you are getting ready to go on a date with your man. You’re doing your hair and your makeup, getting excited about when he comes over, and when he walks in the door you can greet him all fabulous looking. When you live with someone, they’re there when you put on your deoderant. Think about it this way…This is the normal sequence of a date: get picked up while lookin all cute, go to event, spend much of event thinking about the other person naked, go home and put all that sexual energy towards getting the other person naked. When you live together, if you are both showering and getting ready, you start off naked – and usually not naked in any sexual capacity, since getting dressed around the other person has become a daily occurrence (if every time you see your significant roomie naked you MUST have sex with them, I hope your job and your friends are very accepting of the fact that you are always late) This inevitably makes your drive to rip their clothes off at the end of the date just a little less intense. And I don’t know about the rest of you, but I really enjoy sleeping in the other person’s bed. It’s nice to have a regular change of scenery, and unless you plan to run up some lofty hotel bills, this is the only way to do it. And I’m sure we can all agree that when faced with the daily post-work decision of (a) going to the gym or (b) cuddling and watching tv, one is just a little more enticing than the other. Once you’re looking to really get serious and settle down, yes of course you should live with the other person. And of course there are many wonderful experiences to be had when finally going down that road. I’m just saying – I know it would be super-convenient when half your stuff tends to be over there anyway, but I think it takes a little bit of the spark out of your relationship when you make this move, so why not try to stretch out your honeymoon period for as long as possible. There will be plenty of time to yell at each other for not doing the dishes later :)

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